27.11.2023
Are you and your family considering an international relocation? Or are you already living as expats?
Then you'll find helpful inspiration right here!
We've teamed up with interculturalist and expat specialist Kathy Borys Siddiqui to make this list of 25 great books for expats and their families.
Kathy has been on the move since the age of eight, lived on two continents, in four countries and made herself at home in eight cities. She has been an immigrant, a cross-cultural kid, a re-pat and currently, she is an international "love-pat." We are very grateful to Kathy for joining this blog project and sharing her life-long international experience and wide-ranging insight on all facets of expat life!
Also, many thanks to all of you in our network who recommended your favorite expat books.
At the top of the blog post you'll see the 25 books that we believe are the best ones to start with.
No two expat experiences are the same. Singles, couples or families with toddlers, tweens or teens? Global jetsetters or a family on its first assignment far from home? Strong global skills or no intercultural experience? Wherever you are in your expat life, there are books for you!
The 25 books are divided into the following topics:
If you have an appetite to keep on reading, you'll find a wider range of books at the bottom of the blog post that have also been recommended to us.
Our Danish-speaking readers can find a select range of expat books in Danish at the bottom of the blog post.
By Louise Wiles and Evelyn Simpson, Practical Inspiration Publishing, 2017.
"Thriving Abroad" focuses on both the expat employees as well as their partners. In the book, the authors use a three-part framework to guide and design personal and professional successful transitions.
The first part focuses on the beginnings, the benefits of international experiences as well as the challenges. Both private and professional spheres of global life are discussed.
The second part of the book is dedicated to the practical as well as emotional side of international employees moving abroad. The authors take a closer look at what is involved in preparing to relocate, and what emotions may accompany the expats and their family members. The stories from expats who have already relocated are useful and insightful for future international employees and their employers.
The third and final part of the book covers post-arrival. This is a critical period for all involved in the relocation. Adapting and finding balance, networks, and communities are crucial for the employee as well as their family.
"Thriving Abroad" asks important, tough questions. This approach is valuable especially for those embarking on an expat journey for the first time.
Both of the book's authors are transition coaches and experienced expatriates who have relocated as employees, expat partners and parents.
By Katia Vlachos, LID Publishing, 2018.
Katia Vlachos, the author of "A Great Move: Surviving and Thriving in Your Expat Experience", writes about the ups and downs of expat life and cross-cultural adaptation. Although many see the great benefits of working and living abroad, Vlachos also points out the challenges families and specifically spouses may face, such as the spouse having to cope with childcare and dealing with culture shock on their own.
The book contains questionnaires and exercises that readers can fill out to assess how well they are equipped to take on the living abroad opportunity. Readers will also find extensive research and stories of expat couples and families from diverse backgrounds who have embarked on an international journey.
The themes Katia Vlachos covers in her book range from: being ready to move and where to move, preparing to relocate, making the move a reality and coping with change, and finally settling in and creating a new home.
Katia Vlachos is an expat, a writer, and a coach. Her work is focused on cross-cultural adaptation, as well as the ups and downs of expatriate life.
By Kirsten Pontius, Self-published, 2022.
If you are preparing to move abroad, it is important to remember that besides all the practicalities, you and your family's well-being plays into a successful relocation.
Integrative Health Coach Kirsten Pontius helps families, individuals, and organizations maintain well-being while transitioning abroad. This book is full of practical advice, based on Kirsten's own experiences, her work with expat clients and global organizations. She introduces behavioral science techniques for mindfulness, stress reduction, self-care, and nutrition.
Over 13 years of living and traveling abroad has given Kirsten Pontius the experience to assist internationals on their journeys. Kirsten looks at health through the lens of a travel lifestyle.
By Yvonne Quahe, Springtime Books, 2021.
Moving abroad when you are a dual career couple can be tricky. Often, one of the spouses puts their career on the back burner to support the other. The big question – when will it be my turn?
Let's be honest, living a globally mobile life with two careers, and a family is not easy. To say the least. "Whose Career – Yours, Mine or Ours" covers the challenges and pain points dual career couples face and how to avoid them. The author offers a framework, CARE Code (Clarify, Assess, Refocus, Explore), for employees, dual career couples, and HR professionals as a guide to facing the complexities of living a Dual Career Global Life.
This book is filled with case studies, exercises, as well as research that guides readers to make the right decisions regarding career relocation.
Yvonne Quahe is a sociologist, HR professional, and coach. She states that this book is about encouraging Dual Career Couples to have meaningful discussions about the type of life they want and to be mindful of both careers. She takes on the topic of managing the dilemmas that come with being a Dual Career Couple and having a successful international move.
By Rhoda Bangerter, Summertime Publishing, 2021.
Starting a new chapter abroad is no easy task, but living and parenting abroad with a partner who works away from home sounds more than challenging.
Rhoda Bangerter covers this important topic in her book. Of course, it is exciting to support your partner when they get a great opportunity to work in another country. However, what happens when you suddenly find yourself solo-parenting and living life abroad more alone than together?
Many questions come up: How can we make this work while apart? Did I sign up for this type of lifestyle? How can I cope doing it all alone?
Rhoda Bangerter is a certified Life Coach. She helps expat moms focus and work on their personal projects, to cope with an overload of tasks and emotions when living with a travelling partner as well as parenting and thriving as a couple, reconnecting, and having smoother transitions when a travelling partner returns home.
By Helen Ellis, Distance Families Publishing, 2022.
This is the second part of a three-book series written by Helen Ellis about long-distance family relations.
Living life abroad also makes us consider what it takes to keep our relationships with family members. How can we stay connected with our family as a son or daughter when we live abroad? As an anthropologist and founder of DistanceFamilies.com, Helen Ellis answers this question and others.
In her book, Helen Ellis offers resources, strategies for better communication, and ways to connect on a deeper level with loved ones. She presents tips for staying connected with family, covers pre-departure, communication, nurturing relationships, planning visits, long-distance care, and declining parents.
The book also offers perspectives and insights that those living abroad and those living in their home countries may not have considered.
This is a book for anyone thinking of moving overseas, sons and daughters living abroad, grandparents of expat kids, grandchildren, as well as all other family members. The more we know, the more we understand and empathize with one another.
By Helen Ellis, Summertime Publishing, 2021.
What is it like to be a long-distance grandparent? This book answers this as well as other questions about the struggles and successes of distance grandparents.
One of the core messages is that you are not alone. The book presents answers to the How, What, Why questions, tips, inspiring and moving stories, as well as advice on how to embrace the changing distance family role.
Helen Ellis brings a different perspective in her book, for all the Distance Sons and Daughters, a glimpse of what their parents go through and how to cope.
Helen Ellis is a New Zealand researcher, writer, anthropologist, and a veteran of Distance Grandparenting. Three of her four children and five of her six grandchildren live 16 to 30 flight hours away in America, England, and Scotland.
By Mariam N. Ottimofiore, Springtime Books, 2019.
This is a book for expat multilingual families, adult TCKs, and all the professionals working with them.
Mariam Ottimofiore uses the analogy of a MOLA – in South America it is a shirt made from layers of patterns and cloth intricately stitched together. It is worn with pride, as it represents who you are.
The author uses the MOLA in global family life as a way to represent living between cultures, countries, languages, nationalities, identities, and homes, for those who find their story hard to articulate. The book uses personal stories and a survey to give solid advice about living life as an international family.
Born in Pakistan, Mariam Ottimofiore is a writer, researcher and expat family specialist. She grew up and has lived in nine countries. Her husband is German/Italian and together they have raised their children in Europe, Southeast Asia, the Middle East, and Africa.
By Batja Mesquita, W. W. Norton & Company, 2022.
"Between Us" is a book that asks readers to look at emotions from an outside-in perspective and to reconsider what emotions do for and in our relationships.
By looking at emotions at school, work, and home – from outside-in – we can reflect on how our emotions will be understood, how they affect us and others. By understanding differences in emotions, we can find ways to understand one another, empathize, and see one another as humans. The author uses psychological stories and stories from individuals across the globe in her book.
Are emotions a product of our culture? How come in one culture being direct, honest, and speaking your mind is seen as a sign of friendship, maturity, and true connection – but in a different cultural setting these virtues could be seen as offensive, hurtful, and criticism?
The author, Batja Mesquita, is a professor of psychology and the director of the Center for Social and Cultural Psychology at the University of Leuven, Belgium. She studies the role of culture in emotions, and of emotions in culture and society.
By Wendy Williams, Self-published, 2012.
Wendy Willams has written a book about multicultural romance and marriage. We live in a global world where people are falling in love, living, and raising families as multicultural couples.
How can we make multicultural relationships work? How do we come to terms with cultural differences?
This is a useful read for those who are in mixed relationships, entering a mixed relationship, or are already married. The book is also helpful to family members. How can friends, family, and parents support and cope with their child leaving to live abroad with their partner/loved one?
The book is based on interviews with multicultural couples. Wendy Williams covers topics such as: multicultural weddings, religious conflicts, challenges with communicating, raising kids in a multicultural family, language, and race.
The author of "Globalisation of Love" has lived in six countries and worked internationally for 18 years. Wendy is Canadian, married to an Austrian and residing in Austria with her family.
By David Livermore, Cultural Intelligence Center, LLC, 2020.
A key word in David Livermore's book is 'curiosity.'
By practicing curiosity, we can learn about people and their cultures, and we can connect. When we travel, curiosity is what makes us try new foods, ask questions that start with Why and How come? Curiosity allows us to get to know cultural norms and, of course, to travel.
The author offers practical advice and explores five commonly faced cultural dilemmas. In the appendix, readers can find ten cultural value dimensions presented in a helpful way.
This book is for all the travelers out there!
David Livermore is a founder of the Cultural Intelligence Center in Michigan, Research Professor at Questrom's School of Business at Boston University, and a Research Fellow at Nanyang Technological University in Singapore.
By M. Huijsmans and L. van den Elshout, Sethellite LLC, 2020.
"Me and My Big Move Workbook" is made up of phases that families encounter when moving.
The emphasis of the workbook is on growth mindset, creativity, and communication. The relocation process takes time and energy but using this workbook as a tool for kids allows them to be in touch with their emotions and to practice their resilience skills through activities and journal pages.
"Me and My Big Move Workbook" has been designed by experts around the globe, teachers, parent coaches, mindfulness experts, parents, and numerous little internationals.
The workbook is an excellent tool for enhancing a positive mindset and building resilience through all the relocation stages, before, during, settling in, and after. A great, fun, interactive tool for the whole family.
"Me and My Big Move Workbook" is suitable for kids aged 5–12.
By Livia Blackburne (author) and Julia Kuo (illustrator), Roaring Brook Press, 2021.
A touching visual story about a young girl who emigrates together with her parents from Taiwan to America leaving her beloved grandmother, Popo. The story touches upon themes of family, love, longing, and loss. The book is from a child immigrant perspective and therefore relatable to kids that are going through this process of being separated from grandparents.
New York Times bestselling author Livia Blackburne wrote her first novel while she was a PhD student at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, where she conducted research on the neuroscience of reading acquisition in children. Upon graduation, she switched to writing full time.
Julia Kuo is a Taiwanese American illustrator who has worked with the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and Google. She has taught illustration courses at Columbia College Chicago and at her alma mater, Washington University in St. Louis.
The book is suitable for children aged 3–8.
By Marci Renée (author) and Layken Davey (illustrator), The Cultural Story-Weaver, 2021.
If you would like your kids to expand their horizons, celebrate differences instead of letting them divide us, and fall in love with various countries, cultures, as well as languages, this is the picture book for you.
Pierre, the main character embarks on an interactive adventure around the world. The book is filled with colorful illustrations, interactive activities, and a pronunciation guide for parents and teachers.
The author, Marci Renée is a global nomad who has traveled to more than 30 countries and has lived in the United States, France, Morocco, and Spain. The book's illustrator, Layken Davey, was born in South Africa and grew up in Morocco. She loves stories.
The book is suitable for kids aged 4–10.
By Emily Steele Jackson, Self-published (CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform), 2018.
James is a thirteen-year-old boy who is less than thrilled about moving back "home" to Montana in the US. Although he is American, he has grown up in China, and all he loves and knows is there. Moving to America is as if he is moving to a foreign country. He struggles with fitting in, finding himself and new friends.
A good read for kids in middle school facing change, moving, and/or repatriation. Being the one who is the outsider looking in is tough. This book addresses the emotions, challenges, and benefits kids and their parents face in such a situation. It's a book for the whole family.
Emily Steele Jackson wrote "Home, James" as her family was coming to the end of living overseas for nearly twelve years and they started to go through the emotional rollercoaster of transition.
The book is suitable for kids aged 8–13.
By David C. Pollock, Ruth E. Van Reken and Michael V. Pollock, Nicholas Brealey, 3rd edition, 2017.
This is the TCK (Third Culture Kids) Bible, originally written by Ruth E. Van Reken and David C. Pollock. With the 3rd edition of the ground-breaking, global classic, Ruth E. Van Reken and Michael V. Pollock, son of the late original co-author, David C. Pollock, have significantly updated the book.
This updated version advises parents and others how to support TCKs as they navigate work, personal development, social settings, and relationships. The book discusses: the impact technology has on our lives, cultural complexity, diversity & inclusion, and transition. Readers will also find accounts of TCKs, the history of TCKs and changes that have taken place, transition from culture to culture as well as re-entry.
In addition, the book covers topics of unresolved grief, identity formation, highly mobile communities, and has a section for adult TCKs, parents, spouses, counselors, employers etc.
Michael V. Pollock was raised between three US states and Kenya, and has, as an adult TCK, lived in various US states and in Tianjin, China. His work includes coaching, teaching, and advocating for deeper and broader care for TCKs.
Ruth E. Van Reken is a citizen of the USA raised for thirteen years in Nigeria. She began writing and speaking about TCKs in 1984 and went on to co-author "Third Culture Kids" with Dave Pollock.
By Lauren Wells, Independently published, 2020.
A proactive and practical guide to raising healthy Third Culture Kids anywhere in the world. This book helps to multiply the benefits of international life and brings the awareness of challenges that can influence the development of TCKs.
Stacked with useful information and practical advice, the book is for anyone raising or working with Third Culture Kids.
Lauren Wells is the CEO of TCK Training/Unstacking Co. as well as a Third Culture Kid Expert and author of several books on TCK topics. A TCK herself, Lauren moved to Tanzania from California when she was twelve. Between age twelve and heading to university at eighteen, she and her family moved four times.
By Anisha Abraham, Summertime Publishing, 2020.
Raising kids in a global world is challenging, but what about raising teens while living an international life? What is it like for teens who live abroad, how can they discover themselves while moving countries? Let's add having parents from different cultures, and being exposed to multicultural environments daily?
"Raising Global Teens" explores topics that international teens face daily: identity, social media, body image, traumatic events, puberty, drugs, and stress all in the context of our modern, mobile world.
In the book, Anisha Abraham presents real-life examples, recent research, as well as her experience working with teens for the last 25 years. She focuses on solutions to help international teens be happy, healthy, and resilient. She provides tips and strategies in a way that is practical, engaging, and humorous.
Anisha Abraham is a pediatrician and teen health specialist on faculty at Children's National Hospital in Washington DC and a global speaker and teen health media expert.
By Jiwon Lee, New Degree Press, 2020.
TCT (Third Culture Teens), as if being stuck between cultures is not hard enough, these young adults must also face being stuck between childhood and adulthood.
The author, Jiwon Lee, recollects how she struggled with identity and confidence. In her book, she shares stories of TCTs overcoming challenges and using these experiences to their advantage. How technology influences teenagers nowadays and what it is like to adjust to life in college. She challenges our definitions of home, being an adult, as well as xenophobia during COVID-19.
The book is written in an engaging and relatable way, making readers feel as if we all have a part of a TCK in us.
Jiwon Lee is an award-winning filmmaker currently based in Los Angeles. She embraced her identity as a Third Culture Kid when she moved to the US, which inspired her to write a book for other Third Culture Teens struggling to find a place in this world.
By Lena Lee, Little Koo Press, 2023.
This is a very raw and vulnerable book written by Lena Lee about identity, how to feel a sense of belonging when living in multiple cultures, languages, friendships, and homes.
It's a story about a diplomat's daughter who moves every three years and is struggling to find her identity. The book presents many challenges and the consequences of being uprooted. It discusses disowning roots, depression, and alcohol abuse because of living between cultures.
Lena Lee was born in South Korea but grew up moving countries every three years. As a TCK, she has lived in Seoul, Paris, Oslo, Kuala Lumpur, and New Jersey. She lives in London, a place she now calls home(ish).
By Lauren Wells, Self-published, 2021.
Countless goodbyes, relocations, new beginnings, loss, nostalgia, and missing friends as well as loved ones are bound to result in grief and at times trauma. These are some of the blocks that are stacked in a TCK Grief Tower.
In her book, Lauren Wells accompanies readers in a compassionate and practical manner while they unstack their Grief Tower. This book helps with processing change, grief, and loss. It is a book for anyone, but especially helpful for adult TCKs, TCKs, their parents, and loved ones.
This is a workbook and therefore requires a bit more time working through than a quick read.
The author, as mentioned earlier in this blog post, is CEO of TCK Training/Unstacking Co. as well as a Third Culture Kid Expert and author of several books on TCK topics.
By Megan C. Norton, Belonging Beyond Borders, LLC, 2022.
For many people, a sense of belonging is created and sustained by the place we live in, communities, people who surround us and who we interact with. For TCKs, it is a constantly changing scenario. How can they sustain a sense of belonging if they are continuously moving around?
"Belonging Beyond Borders", written by Megan C. Norton, supports the journey of Adult Third Culture Kids in unpacking what it means to belong. Using self-reflection exercises and questions, readers focus on what belonging means to them, how to belong, where to belong, and why belonging is needed.
This book is also a tool for reflecting on how a mobile life has impacted those who live it, and how they are connected to people and places. In her book, the author offers compassion, insight, as well as practical activities for self-reflection.
Megan Norton is a Third Culture Kid author, consultant, and researcher focused on supporting cross-cultural individuals. Growing up as a U.S. diplomat dependent, she lived in six countries and has lived in four more as an Adult Third Culture Kid. Megan is the podcast host of A Culture Story, director of a non-profit for TCKs, and writer at adultthirdculturekid.com.
By Cate Brubaker, Doreen Cumberford and Helen Watts, Self-published, Kindle Edition, 2018.
After living abroad for a number of years, returning home can be a greater challenge than leaving in the first place. You might feel that time in your home country has stood still and that you're out of synch with friends and family.
"Arriving Well" is a compilation of five compelling and vulnerable autobiographical stories of re-entry. Although each story is different, they share the theme of returning to your passport country.
Readers will find useful resources: mini-coaching, reflection questions, and helpful resources.
Doreen Cumberford, a serial expat of 40+ years, speaks, coaches, and writes on International Transitions and Re-entry. Helen Watts spent eight years living in Kyrgyzstan with her husband and family and returned to Oxford in 2010 where she retrained as a life coach. Cate Brubaker is a re-entry coach, consultant, and author that has lived in Germany, and worked and traveled on four continents.
By Catriona Turner, Word Bothy Press, 2023.
International life is often paved with challenges. In this story told by Catriona Turner, the challenges paved her way home – to herself. What was supposed to be an exciting adventure of living in the South of France for three years turned out to be a long international experience she did not anticipate.
In her memoir, Catriona Turner describes her mental health struggles, missing family, multiple culture shocks as she maneuvered through life in France, Uganda, Congo, and Denmark, finally coming face to face with a global pandemic. An honest, heartfelt story of living an international life as an accompanying spouse, mother, writer, and community seeker.
Catriona Turner is a Scottish writer and editor. She has spent fourteen years globally mobile with her family, living in France (three times), Uganda, Congo, and Denmark.
By Carrie Frais (editor), Springtime Books, 2nd edition, 2021.
Real, powerful stories of nine women.
Life abroad comes at a price. For some, it is coming to grips with the various challenges that pop up after the honeymoon stage: loneliness, grief, living as an accompanying spouse, parent, and trying to fit into local communities.
Expat life raises important questions of who am I? Where do I belong? What is my role in this chapter of international life? How are we and our loved ones affected by the loss of identity and feeling rootless?
In this book, nine women openly and honestly tell their stories, addressing the emotional aspects and challenges of moving abroad.
Carrie Frais is a British broadcast journalist and PR consultant who has been living in Barcelona since 2006. In 2008, she founded MumAbroad.com, one of Europe's leading websites for international families living in Spain, France, Italy, or Germany.
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